The Female Orgasm Mystery
It is very interesting how two different gender of the human race react to the same thing differently. While the majority of men ejaculate shortly after penetration (more than 90 percent of men achieve an orgasm and ejaculate 100% of times), and are mostly ready for the second round with subsequent ejaculation, the female body seems to be rather resistant to achieving an orgasm- at least it seems for the ladies to be much more difficult to achieve an orgasm. While most men have this opinion that their sexual abilities or their genital size is the “miss-shooting gun” that does not reach its target, the ability of a woman to achieve female orgasm does not always depend on the man’s size. According to several major surveys, only 25 percent of women always climax during sex with a partner. The rest is a hit or miss or they never experience a female orgasm during intercourse at all.
How does Female Orgasm Happen?
There is much speculation as of why or how the female orgasm is becoming such a great experience for women. While the complete mechanism or even the purpose of female orgasm seems to be complex, it certainly can be triggered by various stimuli and even feel different depending on stimulating factors. One variable is the type of physical stimulation, and to what body parts. The most common form of female orgasm is the vaginal orgasm. A “vaginal orgasm” takes place through stimulation during intercourse or other vaginal penetration, entirely without clitoral stimulation. However, the vagina has few nerve endings, and therefore cannot create an orgasm on its own. Instead of thinking of the vagina and clitoris as separate entities, try thinking about them as a network of nerves and muscles. The whole female orgasm can be compared to a pressure valve system: during stimulation the blood flow is increased in the pelvic organs and the vagina, a pressure is built up, and finally the pressure is released when having a female orgasm. Emotions, perceptions, memories, and senses also determine how women experience sex- this is called brain stimulation. The actual female orgasm then consists of a series of muscle contractions in the anogenital area as well as other parts of the body- tip for guys: if she is not clinching the toes and her face, she might be faking!
As we continue talking about how female orgasm works, some men might think that if “it’s so easy, what’s the matter with those women who don’t get an orgasm?” Well, as logical and simple it may sound, women do experience sex in a different way than men do. Lack of sufficient stimulation might be the biggest deal breaker when having sex and trying to achieve a female orgasm. Foreplay is one of the most important steps in building these necessary tension to help our woman along the road of achieving a female orgasm.
If you or you’re partner are having a hard time achieving female orgasm, a honest talk, sharing desires and expectations, and helping or guiding the guy to improve his skills is the one most important step to achieving female orgasm.